They have the space, time and money to take the children for an evening, but I don’t know how to raise the issue with them. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
I would like some advice on how best to initiate a conversation with my in-laws about their approach to being grandparents. They recently retired, are in good health and financially comfortable. They live not far from us in a large house with a garden, and have the space to look after the grandchildren (we have two young children) for an evening if they wish to. Except that does not appear to be an option.
We have regular (day) childcare, but thought it would be helpful if they could take the boys for an evening every few weeks so my wife and I could go out, which we do rarely. But each time we have tried to set this up, my in-laws have changed their mind at the last minute.