In an extract from Feminists Don’t Wear Pink (And Other Lies), Liv Little describes how body positivity and relationships with women helped change her perspective about women’s ‘imperfections’
I didn’t look at my vulva until I was 14, and when I did, it was purely because my friend and I had planned to lose our virginities to each other. I remember calling up another of my best friends at the time and telling her what was about to happen. The guy in question was well on his way over, and my friend advised me to shave everything, immediately.
This would have been the first time I had seen my vulva in all her glory. As we were about to have sex, I remember him commenting on me having something “hanging down” there. I don’t think he meant it as an insult, but I suppose what he had seen was the neat, perfect vulvas that we are exposed to through online pornography. I’m well aware that this was the source of sex education for all my male friends at the time.